I am a YES girl. I am keen and eager to participate. I always look for a way for something to work.I find solutions, I make plans and find success.
Yes, yes, yes.
Lots of Yes’s in my world.
But knowing when to say NO has been my most valuable skill, albeit an often forgotten one.
As a work-a-holic I want to make ALL the things happen, I want to find ALL the solutions and be everything to everyone. I want to take every opportunity, optimistic to the end that it will deliver what I expected.
In the end, that only does us both a disservice.
Why a picture of a chicken? Chickens make me happy, the meditate my soul and help filter my thoughts.
We should all have chickens
Part of my continued journey is refining my genius. Taking the polishing cloth to my skills over and over again, buffing them up and getting rid of the excess that doesn’t need to be there. Somedays I take the hammer and whack off a big chunk that doesn’t belong, other days I stand back and look at my creation, wondering what else it needs to improve.
Often I get so busy using my skills, I forget that they need me to stop, and assess how they have developed.
At the end of the day, the only thing I need to end up being, is me, and “me” is a pretty simple creature.
I thrive off of positive things. Growth, development, support and creativity. I trust that to have these things, we sometimes need to work through the mucky part and while I love a good challenge, I also like to spend my time where I know I will be successful, using the skills I have worked so hard to improve.
This past few weeks I have been deep in my head, sorting and sifting through the mess that appeared over the busy last few months. Like a junk drawer in our kitchen, I am looking at the projects in there wondering how on earth that spare sock ended up beside the can opener.
Lives need tidying up. We need to spend the time getting our hands dirty and filling the bags to send them off for donation. It needs to be done in our physical space, as well as mental.
I am in clean and purge mode.
I and being ruthless in the process, trusting that me saying “no” or even “no longer” won’t result in failure, but in more success. Believing that as we continue to refine and become more niche in our skills, our value is greater and our skills more beneficial.
And as the bags are tossed in the back of the pick up, and emails are sent and lists are cleaned out, my heart, my soul and my mind feel cleaner and lighter. The items that are on my plate are ones that I THRIVE off of, the rooms of my life are dust free, and empty of clutter. The things I spend my time doing are the ones I am passionate about, and that will deliver success.
Through this process I am reminding myself that I do not need to be everything to everybody. I do not need to have all the answers, and provide all the solutions. Being “just me” is absolutely perfect, and if me being me doesn’t give you the answer you are looking for, then perhaps we shouldn’t try,
Life and business should be a journey of improvement. We should try to break the negative patterns and squash the bad habits. We should look forward, chase our dreams and do our very best.
And we should release that which does not feed our soul, line our pockets or help us grow.
We should learn to say no.