Women helping women, moms helping moms. All of us helping, listening, supporting, responding and nurturing, and then at the end of the day: collapsing.

We love to help. We love to listen. We love to be there for our sisters.
But when is enough, enough?

I turned on my “selfish” button a few years ago.  I started to think about myself, and about my family. I put us first.

Above everything, and everybody else.

and I am glad I did.

At some point in time I feel that every woman, and every family needs to become selfish. We need to be “self absorbed” in fact. Obsessed with what WE WANT, and what we need.

And as much as it “takes a village to raise a family” sometimes it also take a couple of parents who are actually absorbed in what their kids are doing. You know, selfishly.

I have learned how to say no. I have learned how to make opportunities benefit me AND other people. I have learned how to think about myself and structure my life around MY needs.

And part of MY NEEDS are a happy family, and time spent with them.

As mothers we CAN’T do it all . . not by far, but perhaps we can do what we need to do? What our family needs from us, instead of what everyone else in the world needs.

And no, I am not saying to shut people out. . . I am just saying learn to say no. Learn to think about what you need and what “something” will add to your life, and your families life, before you do it.

Maybe, just maybe, being selfish is a good thing right now?