In my house, hubby and I do the delicate balance of managing  the schedules of 3 kids, countless outdoor critters and two entrepreneurs.

Two START-UP entrepreneurs even.

The delicate balance of adjusting to work requests, to kid requests and to all the other stuff as well.

We adapt, we make room, we help each other out, and we react, constantly, to whatever needs our attention.

In fact, we both spend so much time making room for each other to be successful it has become a full time job.

So, we sat down and made an agreement. We would just tell each other what we need.

Sounds so simple, doesn’t it.

But when was the last time you actually told someone what you need, or want from them.

Like directly. Without all the flowery stuff?

Cause, here’s the issue. I don’t think we have time to guess what each other needs anymore. I think, in the current place in life, we are all busy, and over-committed. So to spend countless hours being kind and trying to help, when the real thing that would have helped never entered your mind… well, that’s just silly.

isn’t it?

So. New rule. For me, for you, and for all of us.

Let’s just say it.  If someone offers to help you, tell them the best way they can do that. Tell them exactly what you want or need from them.

Worst case?  They can’t do it. But then at least you will know.

And if you are in a situation where you do want something, but haven’t asked yet? Just leap into it. State your goal. State your intention. Decide what you want from this.

“THIS” being anything.

And, with your partner. . . try it out. Ask him what he needs from you one day and see what the response is?  And then share what you need back . . . and don’t wait until your “need” comes out as a “vent”

Let’s all just be straight up about it ok?

So, tell me…. what do YOU need today?